After I had my second daughter people congratulated me just the same. I know they were genuinely happy for me because after all, I had two perfectly healthy and thriving baby girls. As a mother, that’s all you could ever hope for. So why did so many people feel the need to ask me : “Are you gonna try for a boy?” At least wait a minute no? I just pushed out a human for *&% sakes! I’m still super fat, exhausted and shockingly I guess, really thankful and proud to have given birth to yet another healthy baby girl!
Here is my secret Mother Truth: I wanted a bunch of boys my whole life. I made the mistake of saying it out loud because those who knew my secret assumed I was disappointed. Are you kidding me?! After nine long months of daily paranoia and prayer, all you want is for whatever it is to get the hell out and be able to breathe on its own.
It would have been nice to have one of each. Why? Well, for a few reasons… I would love to see my husband with a son to see if he would parent any differently. I only have a brother and we’re really tight so I would have liked for my girls to have a boy around. I love being a mom to daughters so much that I would have liked to also be a mom to a son. And finally, I wish I didn’t feel like I disappointed anyone. It would have been nice for people to say congratulations and shut up!
If my husband and I decide to try again one day, it will be because we want another healthy baby rather than because we’re hoping for a boy. Here’s a piece of advice for those of you out there who feel the need to ask, “are you gonna try for a boy?” or “are you gonna try for a girl?”. Stop right there! Idiots! Odds are the brand new glowing and super blessed parents are enjoying their fantastic new creation. It’s highly doubtful that they’re hoping it turned out differently but if they are, secretly in their heart of hearts, they’re only human because it really would have been nice to have one of each.