My daughter started to walk about a week after her 1st birthday. I remember being bummed out because she wasn’t walking at her party for everyone to see. Actually, I remember dragging her around by one arm forcing her to show everyone that she’s almost there. I feel sick to my stomach admitting to that.
A little girl down the street was stepping lively at 10 months and my friend’s baby was chasing girls at his first birthday party. The truth is, the average baby takes their first steps between 12 and 15 months but it doesn’t seem to matter. The day your child turns one, people start asking with concern or telling you about their overachiever. I’ve actually had someone tell me that they themselves were walking at 9 months. Bravo Loser! Not just random people are doing the interrogating but unfortunately your family, and not in a nice way, as though your tiny human didn’t meet their unrealistic expectations. It’s so shameful and I’m embarrassed to say that I’ve participated!
So why do we participate? Simple. We want our kids to be talked about in a good way, seen in a favorable light, set the bar. We don’t want negative thoughts directed at them. We are also consumed with concern about their timely development. Those damn books again!
Unless you’re an MD, don’t ask the development questions. If they’re not walking around your ankles, it should be obvious that they haven’t mastered the art yet! If they’re still in diapers, that’s probably where they crap! If they can’t say M-A-M-A or D-A-D-A, then it’s highly likely that baby babble is still where it’s at! It’s safe to say that us mothers know these things already and we don’t need you reminding us. Unfortunately we’re thinking the same things and we can sense that you are too!
So many of us attend the baby races so let’s tone it down! After all, after they start walking, they’ll start running… away from you!