I’m sure we would love to say that we don’t but we do. We shaft number two.
The case is made and simple. The transition between no kids to with baby is so sensational, so drastic. Life will forever be changed and will never appear similar to prior, not in the least. The transition into a second child feels somewhat like so… One was definitely not that hard, sleep dwindled after having just got it back, you are no longer related to the couch and, of course, you could never have imagined you had even more love in that heart of yours.
First, you’re not nearly as paranoid. Watching them sleep with one eye open has turned into ‘now make sure you breathe tonight kid, because you’re on your own.’ Mama needs her sleep.
Second, you’re not nearly as insecure. You’ve changed thousands of diapers and dealt with fevers, teething, cuts and boo-boos. You’ve done the reading and you call yourself Dr. Mom. Don’t get me wrong, you look forward to the appointments for reassurance but you are slightly more dauntless and bold.
Third, you simply don’t have the time. Number one needs your one on one. They need to be entertained and challenged as they blossom. They may need potty training, homework assistance, or a ride to the movies. Unfortunately number two may sit in a bit of shit for a minute while you’re tending to the needs of the eldest.
You hold them less, you feed them less diligently, you change them less often, you take less pictures and the ones you take include the older one! You are only human mommy and can’t possibly do it all. They will be independent and strong because your hands may not have been on their shoulders the whole time. So try to be less wonderful to number one so you have less to compare yourself to! As long as you care I can promise you this… They will grow up with more than enough love to make them fabulous and will have never felt even the slightest bit of shaft.
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